The Real Reason You Need To Stop Settling For Less
And How To Attract The Right Relationships.


Why Date Traditionally When You Can Benefit?
Relationship-Settling: Compromising your own needs and values to maintain a relationship that doesnât further your growth.
We donât exactly say to ourselves, âOK, this is where the road ends for me because I donât think I can do any better than this.â But thatâs exactly what we do. Sometimes weâre aware of it, and other times we push it down into our subconscious. Our intuition will bring it up now and again, but…
We become talented in the art of ignoring.

Now why in the world do we do this? Well, it has everything to do with how we feel about ourselves. Many women operate daily with low self-worth. They donât trust themselves or their ability to truly grow and follow their dreams.
So, the first man to offer validation and a sense of security will become the end all be all.

Maybe heâs got an OK job and makes you feel safe. Heâs average in most areas, but at least you have someone to take to your cousinâs wedding (youâre always judged for showing up alone).

Maybe heâs providing for you (pays your rent or cover your bills), and it becomes a relationship of convenience. Youâre not really furthering your growth and you consider leavingâŠbut are unsure if you can afford to.

Maybe heâs the first guy to call you pretty on a regular basis. Youâve been wanting to hear this affirmation since your âtomboy yearsâ, and youâre afraid of letting go to grow.
So we settle with this individual and begin a relationship, even if it leads us into stagnation. But then, one of two outcomes will happen.
- Weâll get incredibly restless and bored (thatâs our intuition again trying to be heard). Something inside will finally convince us to end the relationship and find a path that furthers our growth.
- Or we deepen our commitment to further and further into a rut. We let our standards and our boundaries sink along with us. We compromise our values and dreams. We compromise our true selves.
If you choose option 2, youâre settling.

Youâre letting go of whatâs really important to you.
It means lowering the bar of what is and is not acceptable in your relationship (how you are treated, how you communicate etc.)

You always wanted to travel the world, but it doesnât fit with his schedule. The only way you know how to compromise is to not go. Your dreams become second to the relationship.

Heâs not exactly the guy you dreamed about, but heâs there and makes you feel less lonely. Soon the novelty of a warm body wears off, and you resent how he doesnât stack up to your needs.

He doesnât treat you like a priority, but you figure you donât need to be the center of anyoneâs universe. Youâre independent (Destinyâs Child style)! But he stays out later and later without texting. Being an afterthought becomes your new normal.
This results in such a disconnect between your inner desires and how you live daily. Itâs heavy, difficult, and it hurts your soul. But the good news is, you can reverse this at any time⊠As Coco Chanel says, âA girl should be two things: who and what she wants.”
This isnât just lip service advice from a fashion icon. Itâs an attainable lifestyle. All you have to do is let go of what no longer makes your heart sing, âI’m askin’ you what can you do for meâ in your best karaoke attempt of Gwen Guthrieâs hit song.
Thatâs where I come in!
CLEAR AND UNDERSTANDABLE STEPS FOR SUCCESS.
Taylor gave me insight on how I was going about asking for what I wanted. She gave some clear and understandable steps and left me wanting more. So much that I signed up for a coaching session! (Source: Clarity)
Jenny T.
HI, IâM Taylor B. Jones
I help women identify pathways that further their growth, allow them to exceed their loftiest goals, attract the right relationships, and find true belonging in the world!
Iâve worked with women of every background and circumstance; from Playboys and B-list celebrities to college students. All ages, size, shape, and color.
And over time Iâve learned something. If a woman isnât aware that sheâs settling for lessâŠsheâll never look for better. So if youâre reading this, it likely means that youâve already arrived at this point. Perhaps that seems like a small step but TRUST ME, Itâs HUGE!

Maybe youâre recently out of a draining relationship where you gave and gave without receiving a fraction in return. Or youâre simply unsatisfied, coasting through life on average.
Whatever the reason, awareness comes first and youâre already there â Yay! Thereâs inner work to be done to break free of outdated (but persistent) expectations from what we have placed on ourselves from previous generations. Women have internalized limiting beliefs from childhood onward.
So many of us have watched our mothers tirelessly go above and beyond with any support or celebration. Weâve seen her exhaustion firsthand. We recognize her sacrifice of self. Thankfully, we now have options.
You likely recognize that a traditional relationship will give you some security and some support.
Itâs certainly OK if your goal is living within the bounds of tradition. However, the new way of dating empowers you to put yourself first. It allows you to advance and benefit in the ways important to you. While I may be biased, please know that Iâve tried both.
And…

The new way of living and dating is so much better!
Every relationship is an exchange, from the most traditional to the most transactional.
I had reservations about the expectations society was placing upon me for my relationships and lifestyle. Truthfully, Iâve lived a bit of a double life. On one hand, I followed the âtraditionalâ spaghetti sauce path of dating.
Because it was the image I was supposed to have. Meet a nice guy, eventually settle down, start a family (maybe), and live happily ever after. That was all greatâŠwell kind ofâŠthe other me was a girl that was stuck in relationships where I gave and gave and gave some more but didn’t receive. There were no spices, no pizzazz, not even a special pasta night. It was not âamoreâ like the Dean Martin song implies.
I felt less of a woman and found myself having to pull extra weight. Even worse, I was cleaning up my partnerâs messes. Maybe itâs because I was used to relationships that left me undervalued, unappreciated, uninspired, bored, and constantly second guessing why I was there. I was tired and wanted more.
I wanted to attract quality generous men â I wanted the ability to tell men how to please me, and I wanted to get what I needed from my relationships. I wanted an upgrade. I left behind meaningless partnerships. Not because they werenât good enough. By many standards, they were perfectly acceptable.
But I wasn’t accepting average. I had higher expectations.
And you know what paved the way for me? Owning what I want and ASKING for it. I believe everyone deserves to live a lifestyle that they want. To be excited about each day and what it brings. Today, the definition of relationship can mean so many things.
Relationship can meanâŠ
- Having someone invest in you, guiding you to success based on their experience.
- Protecting yourself with a safety net, someone to assist you when life throws curveballs.
- Being pampered and treated like the woman YOU ARE.
- Anything/everything that helps you become the best version of you.
Itâs important to remember that YOU are your greatest ally, but you are not alone. Hundreds of thousands of women have achieved their full potential after they stopped listening to the worldâs opinion of what women should be.
How do you get there?
By tackling some mindset shifts, of course! As with everything worthwhile, thereâs some inner work you need to complete to significantly raise your expectations (for yourself and your chosen partners). Worried that the new way of dating will give you an unflattering label? That by only focusing on successful men, youâll be pinned with a large âGDâ scarlet letter?
Learn why it is nothing to fear.
Next: Part 2 (of 4): Transcending the Gold Digger Label